A Variety of Resources
For moments of Crisis...
Emergency Resources can be found here.
Books, Ted Talks, websites...
On Relationships and Sexual Happiness...
Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies by Michael J. Bader
Enduring Desire: Your Guide to Lifelong Intimacy by Michael E. Metz
Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship by David Schnarch
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Dr. Sue Johnson
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
sexual functioning for people with penises...
Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex by Barry McCarthy and Michael Metz
Premature Ejaculation Help resource website
sexual functioning for people with vulvas...
Women's Anatomy of Arousal by Sherri Winston
Specific to Non-monogamy...
Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships by Mark Michaels & Patricia Johnson
Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino
Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Adventures by Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy
Specific to Kink...
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge edited by Tristan Taormino
When Someone You Love is Kinky by Dossie Easton
Bi America: Myths, Truths, and Struggles of an Invisible Community (Bisexuality) by William Burleson
Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth and their Allies by Ellen Bass &Kate Kaufman
Genderqueer: Voices from Beyond the Gender Binary by Joan Nestle & Claire Howell
Get Closer: A Gay Man's Guide to Intimacy and Relationships by Jeffrey N. Chernin
Sexual Intimacy for Women: A Guide for Same-Sex Couples by Dr. Glenda Corwin
Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People by Dr. Eleanor A. Hubbard & Cameron T. Whitley
True Secrets of Lesbian Desire: Keeping Sex Alive in Long-Term Relationships by Renate Stendhal
Birth as an American Rite of Passage by Robbie E. Davis-Floyd
Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
When Survivors Give Birth: Understanding and Healing the Effects of Early Sexual Abuse on Childbearing Women by Penny Simkin & Phyllis Klaus
Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity by Andrew Solomon
Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting From Birth to Six Years by Jim Fay & Charles Fay, Ph.D.
No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.
The Whole Brained Child by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.
The Wholehearted Parenting Manifesto by Brené Brown
On Trauma and Healing...
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker
Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma by Staci Haines
Pandora's Project Their library section (under "recommended reading") has an extensive list of books for sexual abuse survivors, domestic abuse survivors, and secondary survivors.
The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
Why Won't You Apologize: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner
Check out this new app for sex ed called Juicebox!
"Sex Education for the Real World" - Scarletteen
"By Teens, For Teens" - Sex, etc
North Carolina Sexual Initiatives for Teens (SHIFT)
South Carolina Comprehensive Sex Education Advocates - Tell Them!
Local Asheville/wnc resources
I have lots of therapist friends who specialize in various things that I don't do (like working with young children, for example). If you need a referral for therapy with a provider who specializes in something you need help with, please email me and I will do my best to connect you with someone great.
If you don't have insurance and need a lower fee for sessions, check out Open Path Collective.
Asheville Planned Parenthood
Asheville Sexologists offering free monthly speaking event on various sex topics - Vino & Vulvas*
Campaign for Southern Equality - including Trans in the South guide
LGBTQ Youth - Youth Outright
Trans and Gender-nonconforming Education and Advocacy - Tranz Mission
*FULL DISCLAIMER: I am a part of this group and regularly attend and often speak on the panel discussions.