A Variety of Resources

For moments of Crisis...

Emergency Resources can be found here.


On Relationships and Sexual Happiness...

Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies by Michael J. Bader

Enduring Desire: Your Guide to Lifelong Intimacy by Michael E. Metz

Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship by David Schnarch

Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Dr. Sue Johnson

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman

Women's Anatomy of Arousal by Sherri Winston

Specific to Non-monogamy...

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Adventures by Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy

LGBTQ Specific...

Bi America: Myths, Truths, and Struggles of an Invisible Community (Bisexuality) by William Burleson

Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth and their Allies by Ellen Bass &Kate Kaufman 

Genderqueer: Voices from Beyond the Gender Binary by Joan Nestle & Claire Howell

Get Closer: A Gay Man's Guide to Intimacy and Relationships by Jeffrey N. Chernin

Sexual Intimacy for Women: A Guide for Same-Sex Couples by Dr. Glenda Corwin

Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People by Dr. Eleanor A. Hubbard & Cameron T. Whitley

True Secrets of Lesbian Desire: Keeping Sex Alive in Long-Term Relationships by Renate Stendhal

On Childbirth...  

Birth as an American Rite of Passage by Robbie E. Davis-Floyd

Ina May's Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin

When Survivors Give Birth: Understanding and Healing the Effects of Early Sexual Abuse on Childbearing Women by Penny Simkin & Phyllis Klaus

On Parenting...

Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity by Andrew Solomon

Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting From Birth to Six Years by Jim Fay & Charles Fay, Ph.D.

The Whole Brained Child by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. 

On Trauma and Healing...

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker

The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith L. Herman

Check out the website for Pandora's Project. Their library section (under "recommended reading") has an extensive list of books for sexual abuse survivors, domestic abuse survivors, and secondary survivors. 

sex education

For Teens...

Check out this new app for sex ed called Juicebox!

"Sex Education for the Real World" - Scarletteen

"By Teens, For Teens" - Sex, etc

North Carolina Sexual Initiatives for Teens (SHIFT)

South Carolina Comprehensive Sex Education Advocates - Tell Them!


Esther Perel's Ted Talk on Rethinking Infidelity 

Female Sexual Pleasure - Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross (youtube channel) (website)

Relationship and Sex Advice of all kinds by Dan Savage (Savage Lovecast) (Savage Love Column)

Local Asheville/wnc resources


I have lots of therapist friends who specialize in various things that I don't do (like working with young children, for example). If you need a referral for therapy with a provider who specializes in something you need help with, please email me and I will do my best to connect you with someone great.  

If you don't have insurance and need a lower fee for sessions, check out Open Path Collective.

Other Resources...

Asheville Planned Parenthood

Asheville Sexologists offering free monthly speaking event on various sex topics - Vino & Vulvas*

LGBTQ Youth - Youth Outright

Trans and Gender-nonconforming Education and Advocacy - Tranz Mission 

*FULL DISCLAIMER: I am a part of this group and regularly attend as well as sometimes speak on the panel discussions.